Moving Forward

After five transformative years with Pivotal Approach and two years of powerful dialogue on the Marriage Essentials Podcast, it's time to reflect on this incredible journey. Have you ever wondered how the simple act of moving forward can open unexpected doors? Join me as I share the evolution of my vision, the surprising opportunities that emerged, like the potential acquisition of a new business, and the lessons learned along the way. This episode highlights the profound impact of persistence in both professional and personal arenas, urging you to embrace change and seize the moments that propel you toward growth.

In our final episode, I delve into the heart of relational work, from resolving conflicts in marriages to addressing the relational aspects of trauma and loss. Through heartfelt stories and practical wisdom, I aim to inspire you to continue nurturing your relationships, even when the path seems uncertain. As we bid farewell to the Marriage Essentials Podcast, I encourage you to stay committed to your journey of growth and connection. Remember, the horizon is ever-expanding, and by moving forward, you create the space for endless possibilities in your life and relationships. Join me for this heartfelt conclusion and keep pushing toward new horizons.

Transcript

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Episode number 15, move Forward. Welcome to the Marriage Essentials Podcast, where we dive deep into the art and science of building a strong, loving, and each week I'll bring you expert advice, heartfelt stories and practical tips to help you nurture and grow your relationship. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, there's something here for you. So join me for a cup of coffee and let's discover the essentials of a happy marriage together. Welcome back to the Marriage Essentials Podcast for what I do believe will be the final time. For two years and a couple weeks. Now, between the Marriage Essentials Podcast and my previous podcast, the Fighting for Connection Podcast, I have sat down and produced an episode every week and you know it feels like this podcast has taught me so much. It's helped me in so many different ways. I've navigated through so much, and what has been amazing to me is how, when we continue to move forward, new pathways are opened up to us, and I've talked about this here on this podcast that when I started Pivotal Approach, the vision that I had was so much different than what it is today and throughout the last five years. Now I just had my fifth anniversary here at Marriage Essentials, but at Pivotal Approach Five years ago, what I envisioned was far different than what I see today, and it's been so amazing to see how this process works that the only way I could get to where I was today was by moving forward, and Pivotal Approach will remain an entity as far as I can see. I will continue to work with clients, just as I have for the last five years, and my focus and my passion seems to remain around relational couples work, and relational work involves death and dying. It involves trauma and accidents. These things have relational ties to them that are a big component of the pain that we experience with them. So those are the areas that I really enjoy working. I work with a lot of marriages and help marriages understand one of the most destructive elements that can happen in a romantic relationship, which is the unresolved conflict cycle, and I'm going to continue to do that stuff here at Pivotal Approach.

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It seems that things continue to move forward with this new venture. I'm looking, as I shared on the last podcast, at buying a business, and right now it's tentatively set up to close at the end of the month, so who knows what will happen there. But with some of these changes, it's become clear to me that my focus is has turned, and even a year ago I didn't see this kind of an opportunity. But the only way I got here was by moving forward In some of these things that I've been working on here at Marriage Essentials. Some of the social media stuff that I've been doing has put me in various positions and various conversations that actually led to the opportunity for me to buy this business, and it's so fascinating to look at how this came to be that I was actually sitting down with one of my colleagues talking about marriage essentials and what we were trying to do there, and that conversation sat in his mind in such a way that I kind of became someone that he thought of. When he recognized that there was this opportunity to buy this business, he reached out to me. It kind of fell in my lap that way, but the only way it happened was by talking, by moving forward, by going after the opportunities that were present in front of me at that time, and I just think that it's so fascinating how these kinds of things happen in that kind of a way.

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So in your relationship it may not seem like what you're going after is necessarily what you want or what you're working on is necessarily where you want to be or the things that you're going through seem so far away from what you long for and what you wish in your relationship. But the encouragement that I can give you is to continue to move forward. And if you can recognize the power of moving forward, it can give you some new energy, it can give you some new purpose and even passion to continue to do what you can do with the opportunities that are in front of you. I think of it this way that you know, when you look out at the horizon, you can see the horizon, but you can't see beyond that. And when you walk toward the horizon, you never you never actually reach the horizon because it just keeps expanding and and our life is very much like that and the opportunities that we have there. There are those things that we can see right on the horizon and it's not that far away.

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But if we walk towards those things, new opportunities materialize, just like the new horizon materializes. And that is the power of moving forward. If we just continue to take those steps towards the opportunities that we have, towards the things that are in front of us, we will find that new things appear, new opportunities seem to be created out of nothing and it's so fascinating to watch and just kind of in hindsight, recognizing this, I thought I would share it all with you here on this last podcast, on the Marriage Essentials podcast, that wherever you find yourself in your relationship, look at the opportunities that are in front of you, look at the things that you can work on here today and go after those things. And when you go after those things, what you'll find is that new opportunities, new information, new things are created almost out of nothing. Things that you couldn't even dream of right now, today, will become possible down the road.

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And these relationships that we're in they are the source of so much good, so much benefit, but they also can be the source of so much difficulty and pain. And if you are one of those that find yourself really in a difficult place or spot within your relationship, know this that you're not alone, that I've had such an opportunity to sit with so many people struggling in their relationships that I've been able to recognize that even the struggles I have in my own relationship are far more common than my brain would ever imagine, and I wish I could give that belief to you because it feels so true to me that, whatever it is that you're facing, whatever it is that you're experiencing in your relationship, those dark, difficult and challenging places that we find ourselves in within our relationship are far too common, and the good news in that is that there are other people who've experienced these things. There are other people that we can turn to, people who've experienced these things, there are other people that we can turn to and get support around these things. And while we may never be able to solve the hurt and the pain and the issues that are presented in front of us, know that we can go through these things together. And that is one of the most powerful things that we can do is we can find other people to go through these things with, that you don't have to do these things alone.

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And yet, when we collaborate, when we find community and when we find other people to support us, these new opportunities for help, these new opportunities for solutions, materialize almost out of nowhere. And when we can move forward in that kind of a way, when we can move towards support and towards relationship and towards connection, even outside of our immediate relationship, we can find new paths forward, and the only way we can find those new paths forward is by moving towards support, moving towards those places where we can find other people who have gone through these same things, who know about these things, who have experience with these things, and they can shine light on new opportunities and new ways to move through these things, new directions to move toward. So it's been a wonderful opportunity to sit down and to open up and to be as vulnerable as I have with all of you guys, and you guys have been so kind, so generous and so supportive. You know, I really recognize that this has been a learning experience for me, that I haven't shown up here perfectly and in the ways that I would have wished, but I showed up nonetheless and you guys were so kind and so gentle with me in this experience and I can't thank you enough.

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So, for the last time here, I hope each and every one of you have a blessed week. I hope you all can be given the strength that you need for your relationships and that you can experience the wonderful gift that is a secure bond with your romantic partner. So, with that, have a great week everybody. Bye-bye With that, have a great week, everybody. Bye-bye. You have been listening to the Marriage Essentials podcast. I hope that you found some valuable insights and inspiration to apply to your relationship. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram at marriage underscore essentials for more content like this. Until next time, keep nurturing your love and remember that a happy marriage really is a journey, it's not a destination. Take care and I'll see you in the next episode.